The Love Project- Self Love

I'm starting with self love. I really am not an expert on this, I find it hard to have love for myself sometimes but I expect a lot of other people do too. I've been reading some good posts on self love and self worth recently.

First of all I would recommend the posts on A BLOG ABOUT LOVE on the subject of being more vulnerable in order to connect with others. They involve realising that you have self worth, which I've come to realise is very important. I went through a phase of reading the first step over and over and it helped me feel better. Check out my post about the vulnerability steps here: https://fallingpetalsuk.blogspot.com/2013/09/a-blog-about-love-posts-on-vulnerabilty.html

Also this post about how your worth isn't connected to what food you eat or how much you weigh is very good: https://dannyandmara.com/2013/08/self-worth-your-weig/ (formely A BLOG ABOUT LOVE)

And here's another post about dating and verbal abuse: http://www.ablogaboutlove.com/2013/02/dating-verbal-abuse.html

Update 1/4/19: Post now found at this link: http://dannyandmara.com/2013/02/dating-verbal-abuse/


The message is that your self worth shouldn't be based on the way someone else is treating you or on whether you're loved by someone else or not. Good message. :)

Here's another good post from Gala Darling: http://galadarling.com/article/100-ways-you-can-start-loving-yourself-right-now

Finally, I only just came across this blog the other day and found a post on self love:   http://thepowerofchange.me/why-self-love-is-key/#sthash.qlQ0pd2H.dpbs (Link now inactive)


I hope someone finds these posts useful. :)

P.S.I'm signed up to Love Myself, Love My Life, the free self love and acceptance programme that's going on currently. They are broadcasting live calls and replays from self help experts on loving and accepting yourself. Check it out here: http://www.lovemyselflovemylife.com/

The Love Project Introduction

I decided to do a project on love because I would like to have more love in my life. I would especially like to have a loving, long term relationship with the man of my dreams! But I also think I don't feel enough love in my daily life, especially for myself. So I'm going to explore different types of love-e.g. self-love, romantic love, family love and friendship. Maybe not in that order, still got to make up my mind but it will start with self-love anyway. :)

I'm completely making this up as I go along! But let's see where it goes. First post coming soon. :)

Gratitude List

Things I'm grateful for this month:

The leaves starting to turn on the trees
Buses
Breakdown services!
Truffles cafe
My traditional fried breakfast at Truffles
Free self help downloads- I got free downloads when I signed up to the Love Myself Love My Life webcast event: http://www.lovemyselflovemylife.com/
Cheese scones
The Splendour Falls by Rosemary Clement-Moore- I'm re-reading it

A BLOG ABOUT LOVE posts on vulnerability

Update 1/4/19: Site is now Danny and Mara About Love, so have updated all links. :)

I recently found the self help blog A BLOG ABOUT LOVE,  now Danny and Mara, which is run by Mara and her husband Danny. A few years ago, Mara went through a very bad time; she had infertility and marriage problems and then her marriage broke down altogether. This left her in a very bad place. But she began working on herself and trying to feel better and her life completely transformed. She became happier and everything in her life improved. She was then introduced to Danny by a friend. They started emailing each other, fell in love and got married in May 2010. :) A BLOG ABOUT LOVE  is their joint project where they share their love story and the things they've learned about becoming whole, happy, fulfilled people.

I really recommend these posts on vulnerability and connecting more with others. That's something that I find hard to do. The three steps are Own Your Worth, Let Go of Fear and Love for the Sake of Loving.

Step 1:  http://dannyandmara.com/2012/03/vulnerability-step-one/

Step 2:  http://dannyandmara.com/2012/03/vulnerability-step-two/

Step 3: http://dannyandmara.com/2012/03/vulnerability-step-three/

There's also lots more helpful stuff on the site, on the subjects of self worth, being happy and relationships.

Gratitude List

Things I'm grateful for this month:

The sunny, hotter weather we're still having
Pintrest (check out my Law of Attraction (LOA) board here: http://pinterest.com/moonsparkle84/loa/)
Sabrina The Teenage Witch (been watching old episodes, lol)
Sam Stern cookery books
Helpful people
Friends
Facebook
Notebooks

Depression and Suicide

I thought I would post some links to sites about depression and suicide, since I know many people are struggling with these issues. I've had depression since I was a teenager and have had suicidal thoughts before. Although depression is talked about more these days, lots of people still aren't comfortable with the topic and suicide is seen as a very taboo thing but sometimes it's good to talk about it.

The first two are articles on suicide and the third is a link to The Journey of Hope site, which had lots of posts on mental health. Hopefully they might help some people. :)

Suicide:


http://ryzeonline.com/dirty-soul-words/ *

http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

Update 16/8/22: I'm getting a antivirus warning for the Metanoia link above and the page doesn't seem to be loadng (the Suicide link specifically). The main page seems to be working ok.

Depression/mental health:

http://www.neseret.com/


*5/9/19: Site now gone.

Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction (LOA) is a universal law that means you attract everything in your life, good and bad as a result of the things you've been thinking, the beliefs behind those thoughts and the "vibrations" you're giving out. That's on the most basic level. According to LOA, if you change your thoughts and beliefs from negative to positive, you will raise your vibration and feel better, which will allow you to get the things you want in life. You can do this through a process called "manifesting". You can also just use it as a way to work through your negative beliefs and feel better; just improve your life in general. There are lots of ways to manifest, including affirmations, visualisations, using a "Vision Board", writing intentions and gratitude lists. What you want to do is "flow energy" towards the thing or experience you want to have and these are all ways to help you do that. It's similar to magic really, when you perform a spell or ceremony you're focusing intent. Let's look at the different techniques.

Update 10/8/24: This post is 11 years old, so now links or sites have changed. I've updated links where I can. :)


Affirmations 

An affirmation is a statement that you can use to improve your life. You can use them to make you feel better about yourself and/or manifest something you want. For example you could say affirmations for things you want to believe about yourself such as, "I am a worthwhile person", "I am beautiful" or "I deserve all the good things in my life". Or you could use them to help manifest things that you want e.g. "I am in a wonderful relationship with my loving boyfriend", "I love my new job in advertising" or "I adore driving my bright blue New Mini Cooper/Subaru Impreza/BMW/insert car" (lol). The idea is that you read the affirmations over and over (people often recommend reading them out loud) until they sink into your consciousness and you believe them, and then the things you said start to come true.