Monday, 19 August 2013

Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction (LOA) is a universal law that means you attract everything in your life, good and bad as a result of the things you've been thinking, the beliefs behind those thoughts and the "vibrations" you're giving out. That's on the most basic level. According to LOA, if you change your thoughts and beliefs from negative to positive, you will raise your vibration and feel better, which will allow you to get the things you want in life. You can do this through a process called "manifesting". You can also just use it as a way to work through your negative beliefs and feel better; just improve your life in general. There are lots of ways to manifest, including affirmations, visualisations, using a "Vision Board", writing intentions and gratitude lists. What you want to do is "flow energy" towards the thing or experience you want to have and these are all ways to help you do that. It's similar to magic really, when you perform a spell or ceremony you're focusing intent. Let's look at the different techniques.


An affirmation is a statement that you can use to improve your life. You can use them to make you feel better about yourself and/or manifest something you want. For example you could say affirmations for things you want to believe about yourself such as, "I am a worthwhile person", "I am beautiful" or "I deserve all the good things in my life". Or you could use them to help manifest things that you want e.g. "I am in a wonderful relationship with my loving boyfriend", "I love my new job in advertising" or "I adore driving my bright blue New Mini Cooper/Subaru Impreza/BMW/insert car" (lol). The idea is that you read the affirmations over and over (people often recommend reading them out loud) until they sink into your consciousness and you believe them and then the things you said start to come true.

However the problem with affirmations is that if you don't really BELIEVE them, then they're not likely to work. If you keep reading "I am beautiful" every day but you feel ugly inside and out, then repeating that you're beautiful isn't necessarily going to change that overnight. That's why some Law of Attraction experts talk about changing your beliefs before you start working with affirmations or as you start working with them. If you change your belief that you're ugly, even just a little bit at first and you start to feel that you don't look so bad then the statement that you're beautiful will start to feel more believable. You might start thinking, "Well, I don't look ugly all the time, sometimes I look alright," and, "I don't look too bad," and then you can gradually work up to believing that you are beautiful. The same applies if you don't really believe that you can get the boyfriend, job or car that you really want or at all. I'm by no means an expert in affirmations, so here are a couple of links to articles that can explain better:


Visualising/visualisation is where you imagine the things you would like to happen, "see them in your mind". So if you would to like to manifest a relationship with a wonderful person, you imagine what it would be like to be in that relationship. If you really want to have a certain job you imagine what it would be like to have your dream job. Or travel round the world, have a baby, buy a new house, lose weight, make new friends etc.

One method for visualisation is where you sit quietly and imagine your desired outcome. Some people suggest that you do it for 15 minutes. For people who have a vivid imagination and like to daydream, this is a great method; it will probably be fun for you. I do have a vivid imagination and I do like to daydream but sometimes I can get a bit stressed if I feel I'm kind of "forcing" it.

Another method is to create a "Vision Board" or Vision Notebook, Vision Pad, whatever you want. I use a pad of paper. You can also do it online. The idea is that you cut out (or find on the internet) pictures and perhaps words or phrases as well, of things and experiences that you want to have and that represent the kind of life you would like to be living, then stick them on a board (or make an online collage). And then you look at them as often as you like and it inspires you and helps you manifest your dream.

Here's a link about making a vision board:

Also check out my  Places I Want To Go board on Pinterest:



An intention is a statement of something that you intend to happen, i.e. "I intend to be a millionaire" or "I intend to live a fabulous life in Hawaii". By writing your intentions down and re-reading them, you can "flow energy" towards them and make them come true. You could put a time limit on your intention such as, "I intend to be living a fabulous life in Hawaii by the time I'm 30" or "I intend to move to Hawaii by the end of the year".

A good source on intentions is Live A Life You Love:

Gratitude Lists

A gratitude list is simply where you make a list of all the things you're grateful for in your life. It's supposed to help you feel better and "raise your vibration" which gets you closer to manifesting the things you want. So you write "I am grateful for my family, "I am grateful for the sunshine" or Things I'm Grateful For:

My car
Blossom trees
Hamburgers at my favourite restaurant
My aunt Jessica

You can do it however you like. In the book Ask and It is Given by Abraham Hicks (the book that started a lot of the interest in the Law of Attraction) they have a process called "Rampage of Appreciation" where you notice things you're grateful for. You can write them down if you want or just notice them and think about them.

LOA Sites

So now here are some good LOA sites:

Updated: 28/2/19

Melody Fletcher (formerly Deliberate Receiving)

This is run by Melody Fletcher. I started off learning about the Law of Attraction when I read The Secret book by Rhonda Byrne and later came across Deliberate Receiving. Melody explains LOA well, in fairly simple terms but there are also more in depth posts for when you want to learn more. You can start off with the articles on the homepage, which explain the basics- vibrations, emotions and more and then move on to the blog for loads of articles. Or just start anywhere you like, it's up to you! :)  The comments on the blog posts are definitely worth reading. I hardly ever commented on websites but I feel like Deliberate Receiving is a "safe place" to express yourself. It's a friendly community. You can also work with Melody personally if you feel you need some help on a particular issue/s.

Live A Life You Love

Boni Lonnsburry has studied manifesting/"reality creation" for nearly 30 years and has created a process called The Map to help you live your dreams. Articles about The Map were online but some have now been taken down because Boni has written a book. However there are still plenty of articles on the site, about allowing more magic in your life, making intentions, changing any beliefs that may be holding you back and staying positive. There are also some LOA techniques, inspiring stories from others who have successfully created their reality and free gifts (e.g. Sample Intentions, Changing Beliefs, Universal Order Form). I bought The Map book a couple of months ago and I like it. If you're interested in going deeper into the process I'd recommend reading the book but the site is a good resource too.

The Secret

This is the official website for the film and book The Secret. It has details on the film, The Secret book and the author Rhonda Byrne's other books The Power and The Magic, stories about people using The Secret, a summary of the teachings and free gifts. It also has the famous The Secret Check, a blank cheque that you can download, print off and then write an amount of money on that you'd like to receive. I've never tried this. If anyone has, did it work for you?

Abraham Hicks

The site for the authors of the book Ask and It Is Given, Esther and Jerry Hicks and Abraham the "group consciousness" channelled by Esther. They have written other books including The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham and The Astonishing Power of Emotions. Jerry died in 2011 but Esther continues to travel round giving workshops.

There doesn't seem to be an awful lot on here, I would recommend that you read Ask and It Is Given instead (see LOA books further down the page) but there are some excerpts from journals and video clips from workshops, also a daily LOA quotation.

Live Law of Attraction

Run by certified Law of Attraction coach Linda Armstrong, this site has plenty of LOA information on the blog and there are also video tips. Linda describes herself as "The Inner Power Connectionist" and says she "guides people to tap into their 'Power-With-In' to help them create their desired life". When you sign up to her weekly newsletter you get a free e-book, 5 Steps to turn on your Power-With-In and you can download another free e-book without signing up, Think- Feel- Live, which shows you how to apply the Law of Attraction to your life. In addition to that, there's a free mini e-book called Playing a game with the Universe, which tells the story of how Linda manifested blue jays and cardinals (birds). The story also appears in the main e-book. Linda also offers a free "Connect to your Power With-In" Strategy session (coaching session).

Update 22/1/17: Linda now has a new site:

20/3/19: Re-directs to

Adventures in Manifesting

The website created by Sarah Prout and Sean Patrick Simpson who met over Twitter and set up the publishing company Alska Publishing together. It features articles from various authors on subjects like setting great goals, changing your mindset and how to create the life you dream about. There is also an affirmation collection. Sign up to the weekly newsletter if you want to get updates.

You can also check out Sarah's website to read about how she and Sean met (she's from Australia and Sean is from America, they met on Twitter in 2009 and now they're getting married!) and read more manifesting articles. If you sign in up to Sarah's newsletter, you receive a free Manifesting Workbook. Visit the site here:

Update 22/1/17: Adventures in Manifesting is gone and the link now re-directs to Sarah's personal site.

Update 15/8/20: Alska Publishing now re-directs to Soul Space Media.

LOA Books

The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

The book that basically started off the Law of Attraction craze, although I should say "one of the books" because Ask and It Is Given came first. But The Secret became popular very quickly. It tells you that you can be, do and have anything you want.

It started with the film The Secret and then Rhonda wrote the book. According to the Secret, you have to ASK for what you want, BELIEVE  you can have it and then RECEIVE it. First of all you get clear on what you want and send your request out to the universe (Ask), then you act as if you already have it, imagine what it will be like to have the thing you want and the feelings you will have and feel them now (Believe) and then feel good now and be ready to get what you want (Receive). In the book there are two processes to help you, gratitude and visualisation. Rhonda suggests that you say "Thank you" as soon as you get out of bed in the morning and continue saying it as you get ready to leave for work/school/whatever. Then by the time you're ready to go, you've said it hundreds of times. You can also make a gratitude list. With the visualisation you can just imagine what you want or make a Vision Board.

Lots of people involved in the spiritual/self help movement contributed to the book, including Michael Bernand Beckwith, Mike Dooley, Jack Canfield, Lisa Nichols, John Assaraf and Marci Shimoff. It's a great book to get you started on the Law of Attraction. The sequel to this is The Power, which I really like but I'll save it for another post. :) There's also The Magic which is based around gratitude but I haven't read that, so can't comment on it. It's one to read for the future.

Ask and it is Given by Abraham Hicks

This is the book before The Secret and it is also extremely popular. It was channelled by Esther Hicks, she received messages from the group conscious known as Abraham and the messages she got became this book! It was co-written by Esther's husband Jerry. First of all Ask and It Is Given explains that we create our own reality and can have anything at all that we want; we knew this before we were born on earth but have forgotten. The longer we think a thought, the stronger it gets and becomes part of our vibration. Your vibration is what attracts things to you. When we think thoughts for a long time they become beliefs. So you if have a strong belief that nothing ever works out for you, that will be the kind of vibration you're giving out- that nothing ever works. And so that is what you'll attract.

We are continually moving towards or away from "Source" and to or from our desires. We are able to tell whether or not we're moving towards what we want by how we're feeling. If we're feeling good, happy, joyful, content etc than we are moving towards Source (a term from the book which means "The eternally expanding vibrational stream of Well-Being from which all that is, flows") and closer to our desires. If we're feeling unhappy, scared, afraid, bad, anxious etc then we're moving away from Source and what we want.

The 3 steps to whatever you want to be, do or have are:

Step 1 (your work): You ask.
Step 2 (not your work): The answer is given.
Step 3 (your work): The answer, which has been given, must be received or allowed (you have to let it in).

Whenever you see something you want or something you don't want, it sparks a desire in you and you ask. The universe then gives it to you and you have to allow it in. In the book they call this The Art of Allowing. You tune the vibrational frequency to match the frequency of the thing you desire and you let it in.

Ask and it is Given provides you with some processes for manifesting, including "The Rampage of Appreciation", where you notice all the things in your environment that please you, "The Magical Creation Box" where you find things that represent all your desires and put them in a box (you can do this mentally too) and "Scripting", which involves writing down how you would like your life to go. Along with The Secret, Ask and is it Given is a book I'd definitely recommend if you're interested in the Law of Attraction.

The Map by Boni Lonnsburry

This is the book by the creator of the Live A Life You Love site. It gives more detailed information about creating your reality. The Map uses intentions to manifest. You start with your "overall" intention for how you want your life to be. An example Boni gives is:

I intend to live the life I was born to live; and as fully and elegantly as possible, discover my genius, live a life I love, and consciously create my reality with fun, joy and laughter.

Then you write your "core" intentions for different areas of your life, e.g. loving partnerships, other relationships, work, physical body, spiritual, play, creative etc. Boni recommends that you make your core intentions unspecific. For example rather than saying, "I intend to have a job working with a specific PR company in a particular building from the hours of 8am to 4pm,", you would say something more like, "I intend to create a job that inspires me and fills me with happiness, a job I love so much that I look forward to going to work every day." That way you leave it open to the universe as to how it manifests.

And then you move on to "immediate" intentions, which is where you can be more specific but still leaving it open. Using the example of the job, an intention could be, "I intend to be offered a job with the PR company (or another company even better) which is fulfilling and so much fun that I love going to work every day."

Afterwards you would close with a request to your "unseen friends" (angels, your higher self, your soul and spirit guides etc). Once you've written your intentions you read them every day. I hope I've explained that ok, I'm still figuring it out myself. I recommend that you read the Live A Life You Love blog post I've linked to above under "Intentions" and you can also read more on sample intentions here:

And then if you want to have a go for yourself  and go deeper into it, you can read the book. :)

Some other chapters in The Map are about working with your younger selves and discovering your hidden beliefs, since these are things that may be getting in the way of you manifesting what you want and techniques for flowing energy towards your dreams. The techniques include "Igniting Intentions" which involves reading your intentions each morning and evening and feeling excitement and joy as you read, "A Day In The Dream" where you live as if your dream has already come true and "Grateful For 'Now and Then'"- writing 10 things you're grateful for now and 10 things you'll be grateful for in the future. If you like the website, you'll probably like the book as well. :)

LOA has worked for me but mostly on smaller things, for example I wanted to manifest seeing yellow Minis because Minis are my favourite cars and I decided to pick yellow ones. Within a few hours of writing it on a list of things I wanted to manifest I had seen one and now I see quite a lot, sometimes 2 or 3 a day! I also manifested more physical things like an iPod and a PS3, items that I put on my Vision Pad. But they're things that you can buy or someone else can buy for you. Still, at one point I thought I was never going to get a PS3 because they seemed too expensive!

I also mentioned films and then they were on TV. Once I said that if the Law of Attraction was real, then I wanted a certain film to come on in the next couple of days. It didn't happen in the next two days but a few days later it was on!

Sometimes I get questions answered, for example earlier this year I wondered if the gothic metal band Lacuna Coil had a video for their song End Of Time because I wanted to put it on my other blog and then when I checked my email later that day, I had an email from YouTube and the End Of Time video was one of my recommendations!! So I know that LOA does work. If I manifest bigger things in the future (or should I say WHEN I manifest bigger things!) I'll write about it on here. :)

I hope this post was helpful and inspired you to learn more about the Law of Attraction. Please let me know what you've manifested and how you did it! Good luck. :)

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