Sunday, 22 November 2020

Feeling More Positive

3 years ago I started a series on the blog called Feeling Your Emotions. It's about your feelings/ emotions, and getting in touch with them. You can read the introductory post here: https://fallingpetalsuk.blogspot.com/2017/11/feeling-your-emotions-introduction.html

Disclaimer: I'm not a doctor, so if you're having mental/physical issues please seek medical help in addition to reading this. :)

I started by covering to-called "negative" emotions- anger, sadness and depression, fear and anxiety and shame. Then I wrote a "neutral" post about the between point of "negative" and "positive" emotions before moving onto happiness. I've written two posts about happiness which you can see below:

FYE- Happiness (Part 1): https://fallingpetalsuk.blogspot.com/2020/01/feeling-your-emotions-happiness-part-1.html

FYE- Happiness (Part 2): https://fallingpetalsuk.blogspot.com/2020/03/feeling-your-emotions-happiness-part-2.html

 

This year I've also written two stand-alone posts called Feeling Lonely and Feeling Low. When I did the 3nd FYE Happiness post, I wasn't sure whether to do a 3rd post on happiness, or a separate one on positive thinking and gratitude. I decided to go with the second option. :)

Note: While I prefer not to put too much emphasis on labelling emotions as "positive" or "negative" because all emotions are natural (avoiding "toxic positivity", for the sake of this post I'm going to focus on feeling positive as in feeling better in general.

It's been a difficult year with the coronavirus pandemic and racial tension and unrest, due to the injustice of the murder of George Floyd and similar killings. Many of us have found ourselves struggling. Some of us may previously have had mental health issues and some people may have found themselves feeling more anxious or depressed than normal. Just over a year ago I wrote about going through a down time, and as someone who has anxiety and depression, this year hasn't helped with that!

So, while I don't feel really happy right now, I'm focusing on feeling more positive. :) 

Note: It may be that feeling positive is just too much of a stretch for you right now. If that's the case then it's probably best to leave this post and come back to it later. :) See the bottom of the post for a couple of links if you're feeling down right now.

If you are experiencing clinical depression it's best for you to be under the guidance of a doctor/health professional.

 

First up here are some links with suggestions for being positive. I've included a mix of blog posts and videos. :)


Jasmine Lipska post and video with tips for being positive: https://jasminelipska.com/2019/04/23/how-to-actually-be-positive-change-your-life-8-easy-mindset-shifts/

Kajal Pandey video on how to have positive and feel good thoughts: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zBbQ7bzAPTU

Video with tips for staying positive when things get tough: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jbxEMRxTGUg

Post from Jodie Melissa about becoming a more positive person: https://www.jodiemelissa.com/2018/07/becoming-more-positive-person.html

Jodie shares her story of how she became more positive  (post and video): https://www.jodiemelissa.com/2020/07/my-story-how-i-became-a-more-positive-person.html

The video includes her manifesting experience. 

 

Simple Ways to Become a More Positive Person (Rachel Kable): https://www.rachaelkable.com/blog/become-a-more-positive-person

How to Be Positive Without Being Fake: https://www.hellolizziebee.com/how-to-be-positive-without-being-fake/  

How I stay positive & happy on a bad day (video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SYka2x9OhBc

Eva Amurri's tools for staying strong and positive: https://happilyevaafter.com/the-tools-i-use-to-stay-strong-and-positive/

Positive self-talk from Nathan of A Healing Earth (video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSom_6N1xao

Video about how positivity can change the world (A Healing Earth): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oexPE3YPlxU

 

Intentions

If you're into the Law of Attraction (LOA) you've probably heard of setting intentions. If not here is a background post on LOA: https://fallingpetalsuk.blogspot.com/2013/08/law-of-attraction.html

I also wrote a little about intentions in this post: https://fallingpetalsuk.blogspot.com/2017/12/letting-go-of-2017.html

Sometimes if I'm feeling really down, I just set an intention to feel better. It usually works eventually! I just say to myself, "I intend to feel better" because sometimes that's all that I feel I can do. 

Here is a post which goes into intentions in more depth, and there's also a section about setting them for positivity: https://stephsocial.com/2020/08/06/setting-intentions/


Gratitude 

I've written a bit about gratitude in the past, most recently in my post about feeling low. You can read that here (there is a section called Gratitude): https://fallingpetalsuk.blogspot.com/2020/07/feeling-low.html

I find that sometimes gratitude helps me more than others. If you'd like to start a gratitude practice, check out the post above. I have a monthly gratitude list on the blog, you can find it here: https://fallingpetalsuk.blogspot.com/search/label/Gratitude%20List

 

Also, here are a couple of links I haven't previously shared:

Post about starting a gratitude practice, and practising gratitude daily: https://thechiclife.com/2019/10/how-to-start-a-gratitude-practice-plus-6-easy-and-fun-ways-to-practice-gratitude-daily.html

Post about appreciating the small things in life: https://www.hellolizziebee.com/appreciate-small-things-in-life/
 
 
 
Working your way to feeling positive  

If you're finding it hard to feel positive right now, maybe these links will help. :)
 
Amy B. Scher shares 15 tiny things to shift your energy: https://amybscher.com/15-tiny-things-that-will-shift-your-energy-checklists-included/
 
Reminders to keep going if you're having a bad mental health day: https://www.itslaurenvictoria.co.uk/6-reminders-for-bad-mental-health-days/
 
This is a good post on talking about feelings (found through Daisy Butter): https://www.sianblogs.co.uk/blog/2020/10/lets-talk-about-feelings-talking-toolkit
 
 
A few things that help me:
 
  • Doing things I enjoy, such as reading, listening to music and writing
  • Reading self-help and Law of Attraction books, blogs and YouTube videos
  • The books You Can Do All Things and You're Strong, Smart, and You Got This by Kate Allan
  • Celebrating the seasons/seasonal festivals
  • Getting out of the house (current lockdown rules permitting), such as for a weekly park walk or going to the beach

 
I hope that you found the post helpful. :) I started it a while ago and since then we've gone back into lockdown in England, until 2nd December. Also, I've been feeling more anxious lately. And I tend to get more depressed this time of year (October to December) because the days are getting shorter. It helps to remind myself that the shortening days are only temporary, soon they will start getting longer again. And it also helps me to think of life as seasonal and cyclical. So, if you're feeling down, there will be times when you feel good again. :)

Do you have any tips for feeling positive? 


Find all the posts in the Feeling Your Emotions series here: https://fallingpetalsuk.blogspot.com/search/label/Feeling%20Your%20Emotions
 
 
And here are the rest of the other posts relating to emotions (not part of FYE): 
 

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